Facebook App Increases Stalking Efficiency

Column: Love-Drunk or Hungover
by Mika Doyle

Last week, Mashable reported on a new facebook app called WaitingRoom that (as I’m sure you gathered by the app’s name) has nothing to do with health care and everything to do with taking your stalking strategies to the next level. The idea behind the app is to let facebook users anonymously notify their crushes that one of their facebook friends is interested in them and is standing by for when they finally decide to leave their current significant other.

The Mashable article published last week explains the process: “When you indicate interest in an unavailable Facebook friend, that person gets an e-mail notification that there is someone in his or her ‘WaitingRoom’ (this person need not have the app installed at this point). The identity of the admirer isn’t revealed until the recipient has changed his or her Facebook status to single.” Mashable goes on to explain that people can’t “cheat” by changing their status to single to peek at who’s in their waiting room — there’s a 48-hour waiting period before the identity of their secret admirer is revealed.

I’ve written about how I think facebook has ruined dating in a past blog post, but this new app really takes the cake. There used to be a time when relationships meant something — a man would express interest in a woman, the woman tells the man she’s in a relationship, the man accepts she’s taken and moves on. Nowadays, relationships mean nothing, especially in the social media realm where real social interaction is a thing of the past. Pokes and wall posts have replaced the nuances of real-life flirtation, and pursuing one’s crush — taken or not — can be done far more covertly than ever.

Now, instead of letting a couple be happy together, work out their problems, or split on their own terms, WaitingRoom encourages users to be the “other” man or woman by offering that nudge to “give [their crushes] the confidence to become single again — if that’s what [they] really want.”

Really? Come on! Is respect for relationships really that dead?

Okay, so maybe your crush is in a bad relationship, but do you really think it’s healthy to be their rebound? And don’t you think you could be out in the real world potentially meeting a person who’s a great fit for you instead of sitting around facebook-stalking someone?

Or think of it this way – if you were in a relationship, how would you feel if your significant other received an email letting them know someone was in their “waiting room”? I know a part of me would feel flattered knowing others found my beau as desirable as I do, but the rest of me would feel disrespected. Hello, can’t you see we’re together?!

What’s your take on WaitingRoom?

Love and Stalking Rights,



~ by Mika Doyle on March 11, 2011.

5 Responses to “Facebook App Increases Stalking Efficiency”

  1. Mika, I could NOT agree more. This is ridiculous. I understand there are those people who are truly encouragble. They won’t take no for an answer. This is a great app for them. I think, though, that if I were in a relationship with someone who was so intrigued by their waiting room notice, I would want to know that they weren’t that serious about me. It would be a huge blow to my ego, but seriously, if you’re just looking for the bigger better deal, I don’t want to be the one who’s waiting around to be left. I should be, with out question, THE deal.

    I’m seriously horrified by the transient nature of relationships at this point.

    But to be truthful, I think if my man-friend (yes, I’ve hit the Sex and the City place where I agree, too old to be called boyfriend) received one of these notices, I would tell him to change his status long enough to get the name of the little hussy. Yup, not a little protective or anything.

  2. Don’t you think that if your relationship is so weak at a simple nudge will send one of you running that it’s doomed anyhow?

    I say enjoy your dating and don’t things serious, until they’re serious.

  3. It is interesting to see how dating has changed over the years. I say this from an outside perspective, having not been involved in any of it? The thing that stands out the most to me is the lack of effort and even tiny bit of courage it takes with current sites and technology. Call me old fashioned, but there’s a bit of a thrill in the asking. There’s no risk with Facebook, web, text, etc. So what if you go on a bad date. I understand the practicality of streamlining the process and pre-screening, etc, but aren’t the bad experiences supposed to make you appreciate the good ones that much more? People need to ‘man up’!

  4. Or if all that weren’t bad enough, what about the teen bullies who will be frothing at the mouth to get the chance to use this as a cyberbullying tool. It is just a matter of time until we get another Rutgers incident with something like this being made available. Even worse that the subject wouldn’t even have to install the app.

  5. As Chris Rock said, “A man is as faithful as his options.” Facebook should not give men options.
    SIgned, your “faithful” boyfriend.

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